For the week ending 9 January 2010 / 22 Tevet 5770

The Long Wait

by Rabbi Mendel Weinbach zt'l
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Question: I often find myself at a wedding at which I and most of the guests are anxious to dance with the chatan even if we don't expect to stay throughout the wedding meal. To our dismay we are forced to wait for what seems to be an endless period of time till the photographer finishes taking pictures of the chatan and kallah in their yichud room. What is the right thing to do?

Answer: You have every right to approach the parent who has invited you to attend his child's wedding and urge him to hurry up the long-awaited exit of the young couple from their privacy. At the same time, try to understand that this is the only opportunity for the photographer to take pictures of the couple together in their fine wedding attire before they become slightly disheveled from the subsequent dancing. So try to strike a balance between understanding and impatience.

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