Shoes of the Deceased
From: Leah L. and Faigie R.
I heard there's a concept not to wear clothing of someone who has passed away. Does this always apply, and to what types of clothing?
Dear Leah L. and Faigie R.,
Jews are allowed to wear the clothing of a deceased person, but there has arisen a widespread custom - based on the writings of Rabbi Yehuda Hachasid - to avoid wearing his shoes.
Some apply this custom only to shoes worn at the time of death, while others apply it to any of the deceased's shoes which he wore. If he never wore them, they may be worn by others.
Your question reminds me of a story:
A few years ago Rabbi Aharon Leib Steinman visited the United States. His travels brought him to the home of Rabbi Malkiel Kotler in Lakewood, New Jersey, where his attention was drawn to a tattered pair of shoes on display. "What are these," he asked?
Rabbi Kotler answered with the following story: "As you know, my great grandfather, Rabbi Isser Zalman Meltzer, was Dean of the great Yeshiva in Slutzk. When the war (WW1) threatened, all the students were sent home."
One student upon arriving home was told by his mother: 'I didn't send you all the way to Slutsk just so you should come home!' Not able get a train because of poverty and war, the young man walked the 400 kilometers back to the yeshiva. When he arrived, my great grandfather Rabbi Meltzer was so impressed with this young man for having walked so far, he kept his shoes as a symbol of self-sacrifice for the study of Torah."
Rabbi Steinman listened, then spoke: "But surely," he said, "the young man from WWI days is no longer living. Isn't it time to dispose of his shoes?"
"Not living?" said Rabbi Kotler. "He is living. That young man was none other than Rabbi Elazar Menachem Shach!" (Rabbi Shach, zatzal, has since passed away at the age of 107, just a month ago from the time of this writing.)
Iggrot Moshe, Yoreh Deah 3:133
Gesher Hachaim page 58
Yabia Omer 3:5