Start the New Year Right
Question: In my family we only did the simanim – the eating of special fruits and vegetables that symbolize well for the new year – on the first night of Rosh Hashana. The custom in my wife’s family, however, was to eat these foods on the second night as well. As a newly married man I am inclined to assert my authority in religious matters by insisting that there is no basis for her custom. What is the right thing to do?
Answer: First of all, don’t be so quick to dismiss your wife’s custom as being without a basis. If you will take a look at the sources in the Mishna Berura 583, you will see the reference made by the Sha’arei Teshuva to the commentaries that urge eating these special foods on the second night as well.