
We often act without thinking how our behavior will be viewed.
We don't imagine that others will interpret our actions as negative
- especially when we know we've done nothing wrong. Remember:
Honest doings sometimes look like...
Cheesy Dealings
Mrs. Ross stopped by the local grocery store and bought three
tubs of cheese for the traditional Shavuos cheesecake. That afternoon,
she and her daughter Yehudis were in the process of mixing the
batter. When they had used half the cheese Mrs. Ross said, "Taste
it." Yehudis dipped a finger into the batter and tasted
it. "Ick!" she said, wrinkling her nose. "What's
wrong?" asked Mrs. Ross. She took a spoon and tasted it
herself. It was awful! The cheese was spoiled! It must have
been spoiled when she bought it. "Yehudis," she said,
"please go to the store. Tell the storekeeper that I bought
this cheese today and it was spoiled. Take these containers with
you and exchange them for three fresh ones." She gave Yehudis
the three containers: One full, one half-full and one empty.
The next week, Mrs. Ross went shopping. As she was checking
out, the storekeeper commented: "Mrs. Ross, I hope you don't
mind my asking, but is it necessary to eat one and a half containers
of spoiled cheese before you return the rest?"
True, the storekeeper erred by not judging favorably. But
Mrs. Ross was also to blame: She should have realized that returning
empty containers might create the false impression that she had
eaten the contents. We help others judge favorably when we explain
our questionable behavior.
Based on "The Other Side of the
Story"
by Mrs. Yehudis Samet, ArtScroll Series
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