
24 April 1999; Issue #234
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David Levine wrote:
Dear Rabbi,
G-d willing, I hope to buy my son his bar-mitzvah
tefillin. The price for a "good" pair is $500-$800.
I noticed that one can get numerous stringencies and "hidurrim"
in the teffilin, with each extra "hidur" adding to the
price. I hope to get him the best, but I was wondering if in
the past they kept all these stringencies? It seems that some
"extras" are only available today with our technology
and manufacturing methods, and that it wasn't possible to produce
this quality of teffilin in the past. If so, then do we have
to be more machmir (strict) than Moshe Rabeinu?
Dear David Levine,
I once heard a story about a renowned Rabbi. One
year in preparation for Succot, he bought three etrogim,
even though the mitzvah requires only one. He did this in order
to fulfill all of the different opinions regarding exactly what
constitutes a valid etrog. Seeing this, his wife commented,
"My father didn't have three etrogim." Answered
the Rabbi, "Your father also didn't own three suits. If
I can afford three suits, I can also afford three etrogim."
This doesn't put us on a higher spiritual level;
previous generations did the best that they could with their available
resources, and we do the best that we can with ours. The point
is not to compare yourself with others, but to do your best with
whatever G-d has given you.
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Name@Withheld wrote:
Dear Rabbi,
A person who is dear to me says he became an atheist.
He still loves Jewish humor, a good Jewish joke, but refuses
to come to a synagogue - even to meet his old friends there!
My question is: May I pray that Hashem turn his heart to Judaism?
Maybe, if he is nudged a little, he will make the rest of the
road on his own feet. But isn't Hashem expecting that a person
turn to Him of his own volition? He gave us freedom of will so
that we could discern good from evil and make the right choice,
and my concern is that I may be asking for something self-contradictory.
Is it ethical to pray that another person become more Torah observant?
Dear Name@Withheld,
I'm touched by your question. From a logical point
of view, your question is very sound. Doesn't G-d want us to
observe the Torah through our own free choice?
Clearly, it is a mitzvah to pray that our fellow
Jews should return to the Torah path, just as we pray for ourselves
in the daily prayers, "Return us, our Father, to your Torah."
But does it make sense to pray for someone to become
Torah observant? Doesn't this contradict free will? Not really.
You see, every person, Torah observant or not, has free choice.
So, when you pray for someone to become Torah observant, you
are praying that his free choice be changed from one level to
another.
For example, right now let's say that his free choice
level is "Should I eat one ham sandwich today or two?"
We pray that he become a Torah observant Jew, and then his choices
will be on a higher level: "Should I study Talmud for one
hour today or two?" We pray that his free choice level be
elevated to that of a Torah Jew.
Another answer to this question is that we pray
that G-d put the person in a situation where it will be easier
for him to choose to keep the Torah. For example, let's say a
person doesn't keep the Torah because he never had a good Torah
education. Through your prayers, G-d can open an opportunity
for him to learn about Judaism; for example, he "bumps into"
an observant Jew who invites him for Shabbat.
Sources:
- Responsa Iggrot Moshe, Orach Chaim 4:40:13
- Avotot Ahavah, by Rabbi Mordechai Becher and Rabbi Moshe Newman
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Mark Spice from Sheffield, UK wrote:
Dear Rabbi,
I know kosher means foods etc. that are allowed.
But what is the term for foods, etc,. that are not kosher?
Dear Mark Spice,
In common jargon, non-kosher food is called "treif."
Actually, the Torah doesn't use the word kosher
to refer to kosher food! Regarding animals, the Torah speaks
about the animals that are tahor (pure or kosher) and tamei
(impure or non-kosher). Otherwise, we refer to non-kosher
food as "asur," which means "forbidden."
Regarding mitzvah-objects - like a Torah scroll
or a succah - we refer to them as either "kosher"
(valid) or "pasul" (invalid).
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Moshe Lowenberg wrote:
Dear Rabbi,
Why are Orthodox girls' schools throughout the
United States called "Beis Yaakov?" What was the relationship
between Yaakov and girls' education? Thank you for your attention
to this. We were not able to come up with an answer in our study
group.
Dear Moshe Lowenberg,
Before giving us the Torah, G-d said to Moses:
"Thus shall you say to the Beis Yaakov, and tell the
B'nei Yisrael." Our Sages explain that Beis Yaakov
refers to the women, while B'nei Yisrael refers to
the men.
Hence, women's Torah institutions - whose aim is
to transmit the teachings of Sinai - are fittingly called Beis
Yaakov in honor of the very first link in that chain of transmission,
the women who stood at Mount Sinai.
Sources:
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Miriam from Montreal, Canada wrote:
Dear Rabbi,
I have known for some time that in the phrase
"eretz zavat chalav u'dvash - a land flowing with milk and
honey" the "dvash" refers to date honey (not bee
honey). What is the chalav? Certainly it was not cow's milk.
Was it goat's milk or could it be some other type of milk? Does
this have some inference that honey and milk should be our main
food sources?
Dear Miriam,
The milk referred to is cow's or goat's milk. The
honey is fruit honey, such as from figs or dates.
This doesn't mean that milk and honey should be
our main food sources, but rather that the Land of Israel is overflowing
with everything good.
The Talmud relates that our Sages saw goats eating
from fig trees. The figs were so luscious that they were dripping
with juice; the goats udders were so full that milk flowed out.
These two liquids mingled into a sweet stream, and the land was
literally "flowing with milk and honey."
Ramban notes that regions with good air, good pasture
and good water, such as mountainous regions, produce the healthiest
animals which give the best milk (witness Swiss cheese and Swiss
chocolate). But these types of climates don't usually produce
top quality fruits (ever heard of Swiss plums?). The Torah stresses
that the Land of Israel has both.
"Milk and honey" also allude to mother's
milk and bee honey. These are the only two kosher substances
which are derived from a non-kosher source (bees and people are
not kosher). The implication is that the Land of Israel has the
spiritual energy to purify even the impure.
Sources
- Ketubot 111b, Megilla 6a
- Ramban, Shmot 3:8
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Last week we asked:
What name is mentioned three times in the Torah,
once as a non-Jew, once as a convert, and once as a Jew.
Answer:
Re'uel. The first Re'uel mentioned is one of Esav's
sons, who was not Jewish (Bereishet 36:4). The second
refers to Yisro, a convert to Judaism (Shemot 2:18, see Rashi
4:18). The third Re'uel is the father of the nasi (prince)
Elyasaf, prince of the Tribe of Gad. His name is spelled three
times as De'uel, and once as Re'uel (Bamidbar 2:14).
The Public Domain
Comments, quibbles, and reactions concerning previous "Ask-the-Rabbi"
features.
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Re: To Pay the Truth:
A while ago, I asked you whether I have to tell
my supplier that they delivered more expensive goods than they
had invoiced. Reluctantly, I followed your advice to tell them
their mistake and pay the extra money. It was the best thing
I could have done! My relationship with them has improved immensely,
they are much more willing to deliver to me and treat me much
better. I followed the halachic advice, and thank G-d I have
already seen the benefits, and G-d willing I will continue to
see more.
(Name@Withheld)
Re: "Give and Take" (Torah Weekly, Parshas Terumah):
You wrote about a body without limbs as a metaphor
for Torah without mitzvos. Regarding the body itself you
wrote: "Without limbs there can be no body."
May I presume to heighten your sensitivity regarding
handicaps that are of a purely physical nature? It is truly unfortunate
when a person becomes a double or even a quadruple amputee. However,
I learned as a volunteer at a long-term care hospital-home that
such a handicapped person appears to have a "bigger"
personality. (Dare I say "soul"?) Oft times more prominent
than the personality in normally equipped four-limbed persons.
The personality truly seems to shine forth perhaps in a "kind
of proportion" to the amount of physical body that is missing.
I still remember the vibrant sense of humor that shone from the
"bodies" of these injured, limbless soldiers. They
taught me an unforgettable lesson about just how big a soul can
seem to be. How often do we see in our lifetimes that when old
age and illness strips us of our physical capabilities, Hashem
grants us the gift of heightened spirituality?
Finally, let us look to the story of Rabbi Amnon
of Mainz, Germany about one thousand years ago: He composed Unetaneh
Tokef in his last days of life, after having been brutally
mutilated by the Christian bishop for refusing to convert to Christianity.
Rabbi Amnon's soul did not lack power; on the contrary, it spilled
forth soul-powers that prompt us to greater spirituality to this
very day when we recite Unetaneh Tokef on Rosh Hashanah
and Yom Kippur.
(Chani Kreisel, Jerusalem)
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